In a dream world nurses and doulas are friends, but it’s not always the case…
It really is a dream when we’re all on the same team- working together for our client to have the best birth possible!
What can I promise you as your doula?
Well, let’s be real. That’s a trick question. I get a bit worried when people think that they can guarantee or promise anything when it comes to birth. But, there are a few things that I do ensure. That have nothing to do with promising a specific birth, but rather an experience of working together. This is what I can (& can’t) promise you as your doula…
What’s my birth philosophy?
This has been one of the most common questions that I’ve been asked throughout my time as a doula, and one that I love to talk about. The answer feels so simple, but is not the case for all birthworkers: flexibility. I’ve found that the tighter that I hold on, the harder being a doula is. But as soon as I let go and become flexible, the easier it feels to ride the waves of all that is asked from birth, life, and beyond.
If I Could Start Over: 3 Things I’d Do Differently in My Doula Business.
If I could start over, i’d change these 3 things in my doula business out the gate- rather than it taking years and years to figure out!
Let’s Talk About Doula Scope of Practice
What is a doulas scope of practice? What does that mean? Read on to find out what we are “allowed” to do as doulas…
The Art of Partner Support
Having a supportive partner is the primary reason that I hear that people decide not to hire doulas or are hesitant. During doula interviews and even prenatal visits, husbands/partners often share that they feel that they’re not sure they need me but are open to my additional care because it’s something that’s important to their wife/partner.
I always hear their concern, and assure them that I will not get in between their support for their loved one. On the other side of birth, oh how their tune has changed! I have heard countless times, “I can’t believe I ever thought I could do this without you”. Though yes they technically could have, I am always so honored and glad that they didn’t.
What Is My Birth Philosophy?
How does this show up in my work as a doula? I’d say that it plays out both behind the scenes and directly every day. I’ve found that the tighter that I hold on, the harder being a doula is. But as soon as I let go and become flexible, the easier it feels to ride the waves of all that is asked from birth, life, and beyond.
Caring Deeply Within A Densensitized System
My mind never ceases to be blown after every birth, and even after 7 years I learn something new every single time. This mind-blowing comes in many different forms. Sometimes I am elated, sometimes overwhelmed, sometimes heartbroken, and often very very tired. Each birth is incredibly different, and there are many factors at play. During a recent birth, I was reminded about how big of an impact the staff, the day, and the flow of the hospital can make on someone's experience. This impact can often be amazing, and other times reminds me of how broken the healthcare system is.